National Coming Out Day
Today, 11 October marks 30 years anniversary of National Coming Out Day. On October 11, 1987 half a million participated in the National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights. It resulted in founding a number of LGBTIQ organizations. From that day LGBTIQ activists came up with the idea of celebrating the National Coming Out Day and every year it continues to promote a safe world for LGBTIQ individuals to live truthfully and openly.
Coming out – whether it is as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or allied – matters. Every person who speaks up changes more hearts and minds and creates new advocates for equality. When people know someone who is LGBTIQ, they are more likely to support equal rights and they are less likely to be homophobic.
Homophobia and ignorance builds silence and it is time to end it. Being proud of who you are will make you happier within yourself. „Coming out“ basically means expressing your sexuality to the world in order to end the stigma.
Every coming out story is unique and here you can read two stories:
*When I told my mother about my first serious partner I was so nervous that I started crying during the talk. My mother’s face was very scared and as I continued talking I thought that this can not end well. When I finally said that my partner is a woman, she said: „Oh, my god! I thought you are going to die! You really need to fix your way of speaking.“
My parents have said it repeatedly that they are happy when I am happy. And I am. They have come through their journey and so have I. As a result of this our relationship is a lot more closer and opened.*
*Most of all, I was scared to invite my grandmother to my partnership registration with a woman. I thought that maybe she doesn´t understand, so I decided to wait with telling her so long that I thought I will never do that. I was just so afraid.
One day my brother called me and told me that he would like to speak with me. Me and my wife went to see my brother who lectured us that we need to tell my grandmother that I live with a woman. I told my brother that I can´t do it and if he wants then he needs to do it.
Soon my brother went to see my grandmother and told her that I am lesbian and my roommate is actually my girlfriend. My grandmother had replied that she might be old but not dumb. She had understood it long time ago and it is okay for her as long as I don´t get married. My brother decided not to mention about upcoming partnership registration at first but later he also mentioned it. Even though my grandmother needed a little time to get used to it, she eventually accepted it. She asked my brother to tell us that we are cowards and if we want that she will come to our partnership registration then we need to personally invite her there. So, one day I went to see my grandmother to invite her to celebrate our wedding day, she agreed to come, but she told me: „You two are highly educated women, but send your brother to tell the news, cowards!“*
Would you like to share your coming out story with us? You can send it to our e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org and we can publish it (anonymously).
– Coming out stories are translated from Estonian LGBT webpage Eesti LGBT Ühing